Why does sharing my vision with others, help me achieve my goals?

Grant Leboff: So what I’m interested in is, you talk about these massive consequences if you don’t do something. Of course the consequences are there anyway, aren’t they? Eventually, because people just don’t achieve the things they want to achieve and they look back and what a waste. But what I’m wondering is that that’s great if you’ve got a coach or if you’ve got someone that can hold you to account. If you’re a company director or business owner or something like that, are you saying that in order to make it happen, you’ve got to share it with someone or are there other ways of doing it yourself?

Nigel Risner: Okay, I’m going to give you a little quote and it’s going to be a little bit passé. And I always talk about we need to have a dream, share your vision and then play with whoever shows up. Very often we have a dream, we don’t share with anybody, so we’re not held accountable. So just tell some of your friends. So have you ever tried to give up smoking? Gave up drinking, and then you go to the pub and your friends say; Oh, one drink won’t harm you. Well then they’re not supporting you. If you really want your goals met, it’s hard enough to reach them on your own. But if you don’t have a support team around you, it’s really hard. Weight Watchers is the best club in the world when you’re in it and one of the biggest disasters where you’re out of it. Most people who are going to something like weight watchers lose weight when they are in the club. Most people who leave weight watchers were more weight than when they started with before they went there. Every week you get a little star, you got a little clap, you get a little bit of applause because you’re in a club. If you go to the gym – have you ever been to the gym on your own? –

Grant Leboff: No.

Nigel Risner: Okay. There’s a phrase that says, I can’t do your press ups for you, but I can support you. So having a coach helps. If you don’t have a coach, you can do it on your own. Then have a diary. So I often say to people; write down a food diary, a gym diary,, an action diary. So anybody watching these videos today, what are three things you’re going to do based on what we shared? Some of these we shared won’t float your boat. I agree. But over the time we’ve spent together, there must be at least one, or two things you could do based on what we’ve shared. Just do something and I’ll help all of the people out. If you do something based on what I’ve shared, email me and I’ll send you a prize.

Grant Leboff: Interesting.

Nigel Risner: I can offer that, by the way, because not many people who ever got to do what they said they were going to do.

Grant Leboff: You won’t get any emails… So just to understand this then, are we saying that actually one of the most important things you can do as a business owner, or as a company director, is actually choose who you hang out with quite carefully, because that support network … makes a massive difference.

Nigel Risner:…My favourite quote; You’re the average of the five people you hang around with. The five people who you spend your time with are either your biggest radiators or your biggest drains. You want people who want to support you to get your goals met… very hard to do it by yourself. When I was at the States, I heard a speaker called Martin Root and he said, you have to do it by yourself and you cannot do it alone.

Grant Leboff: Great. Thank you very much.